Surprisingly, I am asked this question quite often. I am puzzled by it every time. Why should it matter if you are not married or not planning on getting married soon? Many couples choose not to get married ever, or are not ready to marry at the...
Read moreTo me, it refers to a predictable pattern of interaction or communication between a couple, or I call it a cycle in my work. Usually, we talk about negative cycles which are self- reinforcing and self- perpetuating patterns of communication which...
Read moreAre you feeling stressed? Do you see it on those around you? While for many in NYC fall is an exciting time of the year, it tends to, sometimes, be stressful. It’s a start of school for our kids, new projects at work, thinking ahead about the...
Read moreWhile Couples Counseling is helpful for many couples, it may now work in some cases. To begin with, to be successful, Couples Counseling requires openness to new ideas, feelings, and experiences as well as willingness to change behaviors and...
Read moreI get asked this question at least twice a week. I will often get a call from a prospective new client asking me about all the ins and outs of marriage counseling and couples’ therapy only at the end I would hear them say: “Let me talk to my...
Read moreI am prompted to write this after being interviewed by Huffington Post about what couples therapists learn from their patients that make their relationships better. Before I delve into answers, let me say that marriage therapists also struggle...
Read moreHow about turning your cell phone off for 2 hours after getting home and turning it back on after for a limited time to just check on anything of importance. This really goes a long way. It is not easy, apparently, for many couples to change this...
Read moreI want to share with you some relationship tips and ideas from well-known couples’ therapy experts. These tips come from an article I contributed to in Buzzfeed.com last month. Here they are: The old adage that you can’t go to bed angry is not...
Read moreAre you looking to improve communication with your partner? Often, when there is a disconnect with its share of resentment, animosity and hurt feelings, it feels impossible to start talking again and even if there is talking, how will the outcome...
Read moreIt is difficult not to compare ourselves and our marriage to those of others. It is kind of natural. But we need to be careful. There are some constructive parts to this comparison, in that you may see something that others are doing that you...
Read moreWhat are the causes of anxiety within a relationship? Why would a relationship make you anxious? One of the reasons for anxiety within a relationship is that the relationship is making you feel insecure about the strength of your commitment or...
Read moreA reporter recently asked me this question. I had to think about it for a moment as both situations can make you feel off balance, off center and anxious. I think a major distinction is that being crazy in love is a pleasurable feeling even if...
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